Amanda's Advice
Keeping Confidences
Dear Amanda
A close friend of mine recently confided to me that her fiancé has cancelled their wedding. She Is (Obviously) devastated and has gone away for a while to recover on her own. Before she left, she specifically asked me not to tell anyone about the break-up, so I promised not to.
The problem is, another friend of ours suspects something is up and keeps demanding to know if I've heard anything from her. I don't want to lie, but I also don't want to go back on my word by saying what I know. I Just don't whether I'm doing the right thing.
- Jaime
Menai
Dear Jaime,
Be true to your friend. You have been trusted and you have to maintain that trust. It sounds as though nothing positive could come from sharing your secret with someone else, especially as you cannot know what is still going on between the engaged couple, or whether they are both working on themselves in order to conic to a decision. Anything You say could jeopardize. your friend's chances of making a relationship with her fiancé and would preclude you from being able to support her in the future. if that is what she needs.
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