Amanda's Advice
Relationships With The Boss
Dear Amanda,
My car recently broke down as I was on my way to work, The woman in the car behind me stopped her car and offered me a lift. There was a fairly obvious mutual attraction straight away and one thing led to another between us. Needless to say we both didn't make it to work that day.
The next day when I did go to work, I discovered, to my horror, that the woman in question was my new boss. I am not sure how to deal with the situation because firstly I am married and secondly I was not expecting to see this woman again. I can't believe the coincidence and I am just not sure what to do about It.
- Ahkbar
Bass Hill
Dear Ahkbar,
If this is not your fantasy, then it may be your worst nightmare - but maybe not!
I assume that the two of you were driven by passion, and that this isn't rape by another name. I assume also that she was as irresponsible as you were in missing a day's work for a momentary fling. This of course means that you share the same work ethic - or lack of it - that would allow you to miss a day at work in favour of one of passion.
As you were both at fault, both neglectful at least of your work duties (let alone being prepared to betray other personal relationships), then you may not suffer too badly from er assumptions that you may not be one hundred percent committed to your job (as she isn't either). However, you probably now have something to prove, because she is your boss and knows your shortcomings, whereas her boss may have no idea.
Do not breathe a word to anyone, do not get her into trouble. Work hard, and maintain a professional relationship only with your new boss, and neither of you need get hurt.
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