Amanda's Advice
Unfaithful To Spouse
Dear Amanda
I recently read your response to a man called Shaun who wanted to place an ad in a personal column. I met my wife through a personal column and pursuing that relationship was the worst decision I have ever made.
I am now seriously thinking about getting a divorce but I am not sure on how to tell my wife that I don't want to be with her anymore. You suggested to Shaun that he would perhaps meet someone at a party. I took your suggestion and now am dating three women behind my wife's back. I am pretty sure one of them is my ideal partner but how do I choose which one? Please help.
- George
Darling Harbour
Dear George,
I suspect that the manner of meeting your wife is not the cause of your subsequent problems. Meeting is only the first step, and for any relationship to work after that, it takes significant effort and commitment. Taking the risk of getting to know each other and then building on to that initial attraction takes a lifetime. I don't know whether you and your wife have truly expended the energy needed to make a good marriage
As I don't believe there is such a thing as an 'ideal partner', I find it hard to believe that you met one at a party. Do these women know that you are married, and have no loyalty to any of them?
You sound like a pretty superficial guy, who would do well to look into yourself to see what you are really trying to achieve in this pursuit of the perfect woman.
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